Why is it that those nagging relationship problems never seem to disappear? Are problems an inevitable part of a relationship? This problem can be defined as a situation that you cannot accept and that you need to change.
What is it that we want from a relationship anyway? After all, no relationship can be free of problems! The simple truth is there are always problems and there will always be problems. Learn from them! Laugh at them! Learn from the problem, and use it as an opportunity to grow by changing your perceptions of them.
Don’t fear the problem: fear creates resistance. When we resist they will persist. Love the problem instead. Love transforms us. To love is to accept the problem and to understand it.
Relationships fail because of a lack of honest communication. Relationships are partnerships, and friendships where each person can supports the other, fully aware that they are both together to fulfill a basic need—to survive. Only then will true honesty and intimacy can occur.
Starting a relationship with some idealistic romantic notion of love brings up unrealistic expectations, which can never be met. On the other hand, if you are aware of your real motives and act on them with humility, you can moments of true, unconditional love.
What we all need in an intimate relationship is a true friend. To quote William Arthur Ward:
“A true friend knows your weaknesses but shows you your strengths; feels your fears but fortifies your faith; sees your anxieties but frees your spirit; recognizes your disabilities but emphasizes your possibilities.”